Welcome back to fashioneyesta on this Wednesday (or whenever you may be reading this.) Today I have been feeling a tad poorly and so have been working from my duvet on blogs, blogs and emails galore in preparation for the exciting weeks ahead.
So, today I wanted to talk to you all about a topic that has been something of prominent discussion for me when I have been asked advice by my followers on my social media and that is about how to be confident despite having a disability.
For me, the most important thing to being able to be confident when you are disabled is to learn to accept and eventually embrace your disability a not an external part of you but something that runs alongside your life.
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When I was younger I was always trying to rebel against my disability, I was severely anorexic for 18 months of my life, I suffered with depression and in all honestly I hated the person that I was. I was born with a condition known as Septo Optic Dysplasia which left me with a severe sight impairment as well as other underlying medical conditions. Whilst I am not saying this for affect, I am merely trying to state the point that my disability wasn’t always something that I embraced.
When you are disabled one of the easiest things we can do is to say something along the lines of ‘there are other people who are worse off than me.’ Every disability comes with its own set of challenge and aspects and it would not be fair me me as a visually impaired person to say that I am less worse or perhaps more worse than someone who is say in a wheelchair or facing anxiety. Every disability is different and there are lots of people who face their disability every day and that is the integral point you are not alone in the world when it comes to disability. There are thousands of individuals who have dealt with their disability and the challenges it brings and have come out of the other side of that metaphorical tunnel and now are enjoying a good standard of living. That is key to remember that although you may be facing a tough time of accepting your disability it is curial to remember that you are never alone in disability.
You make your disability what it is, it does not make you, you are not the disabled person, you are always the person who has a disability. You always comes first before your disability as it is only one part of yourself and does not make you up as a whole, it is important to treat your disability like a part of your puzzle but not like an enemy that you have to face until the death. For a while it may seem like the enemy and of course this is only a natural process that we as humans all go through when facing something major like sight loss, amputations or severe injuries. But over time your disability should feel more like a person that you have come to tolerate and accept as a consistent part of your life.
For me, I do not love my disability, that would be a tad strong, but I love who it has made me become as for me it has made me become a stronger, more understanding and tolerant person with the ability to educate others. We as humans all are born with certain talents or abilities, disability included, we all have the power to do something with our lives and to make a difference on this little planet we call home. Although I am not one for saying that everything in disability is an inspiration as this makes things far to complex and in a way prevents disabled people from being perceived as everyday human beings with the potential to lead binary lives. Disability is positive as it makes society more healthy as when you are disabled you have to communicate with people a lot more to educate them and to make them understand your needs and your perspective. Which can only in turn lead to further understanding of humanity and the wy we act towards one and other.
It is always important to as one famous song quotes ‘always look of the bright side of your life’ and disability although it can throw upon you challenges and asks it can also bestow upon you a lot of abilities and strong points. One thing I would like to point out is that your disability does not ‘disable’ you in any way as this is a massive stigma that surrounds the world disability. Your disability is more like a variability in the sense that it will enable you to use different parts of your body or your mind to combat day to day tasks and to live a normal life. Like people who are in wheelchairs may find they develop certain skills to do things like apply make up or to navigate their environment although I am in no position to comment on this in detail. Sight loss for example can lead you to have a heightened sense of smell or hearing which is because our body is using one sense more than the other and so it will be able to develop it to enable you to thrive…our body is an amazing thing.
So, now lets get rid of this idea that our disability disabled us and instead focus on the positives and how actually our disability can enable us to be intelligent, witty and independent individuals. If we embrace our own disability people who are non disabled will also learn to embrace it and we can begin to grow a healthier plant that is society. People who are young and disabled will also learn from others that their disability is nothing to be ashamed of and that is it just a normal part of themselves just as it is normal for the sun to rise each and every morning.
The next time you think of your disability as an emery consider the things that it has enabled you to do, think of how it empowers you and others and remember that your disability is a part of you and you were made the way you are for a reason and never forget that mother nature does not make a mistake no human is perfect, but we are all unique in our individuality and disability does not make us any less.
Be proud of who you are and embrace it with all your heart and believe me your life can be whatever you want it to be.